Your Souls Garden, the importance of pruning, well.

A couple of years ago, I was lucky enough to be invited into a space where, for a weekend, myself and a group of like minded souls, came together, to Dance The Tarot.

We constellated family/generational blocks and with mastery and guidance of Marseille Tarot deck and the wonderful Adrien Mastrosimone.

During this weekend, I made some very personal, stark discoveries, and deep soul connections, that were to shape my future.

This morning, upon listening to Tarot Today, a pod that Adrien alongside his co host Delphine, discussed the fools journey.

As I listened, the words rang out in my head….

Death/Rebirth, Justice/The Hanged Man, and how integral these cards are upon the healing journey.

And, in understanding the messages, what they have to offer, how integral they are to the healing process & trauma release.

There comes a point in life where the soul asks to be pruned.

Not punished.

Not abandoned.

Pruned.

Nature understands this deeply. A tree does not mourn every branch it loses. It releases what can no longer receive light so that new growth can emerge. Death and rebirth are not separate experiences, they are part of the same sacred cycle.

Sometimes pruning looks like saying goodbye to people you thought would walk beside you forever.

Sometimes it is the ending of a role, an identity, a version of yourself that kept you safe once but is now keeping you small.

It may be the environment, the soil in which you find yourself, that does not support your nutritional or wider needs.

In reality, the deepest pruning we can ever tend is internal.

Trauma teaches us to search outside of ourselves for safety.

For justice.

For certainty.

For people who do what they say they will do.

For consistency, reassurance, regulation.

And when those things are not given, the nervous system grips tighter. It loops. It searches. It chases understanding. It tries to make the external world finally feel safe enough to soften.

But healing begins when we gently take the onus off the person, the betrayal, the situation… and place that energy back into ourselves.

Not in blame.

In reclamation.

We begin pruning the parts within us that cannot process the wound.

The hypervigilance.

The over-explaining.

The waiting for someone else to make us feel worthy, chosen, safe or seen.

And as we do, something extraordinary happens.

New shoots appear.

New neurological pathways form.

The body begins to realise it no longer has to survive every moment.

The nervous system starts learning peace instead of prediction.

The heart softens.

The roots deepen.

And with Death, Rebirth is created.

Not becoming somebody else, but becoming the authentic and sovereign, you.

And once you are fully within yourself, people and situations no longer hold the same power over you. Because your safety is no longer outsourced. Your peace is no longer dependent on whether someone stays, leaves, understands, apologises, or changes.

Pruning can feel like death while it is happening.

But every garden knows:

what is lovingly cut back often returns stronger, wiser, and more alive than before.

All my love,

Penelope

https://www.adrienmastrosimone.com